http://www.evolvingperspectives.co.uk en-gb evolvingperspectives.co.uk 2012-3-27T00:00:00Z evolvingperspectives.co.uk http://www.evolvingperspectives.co.uk/page9.htm#115391 In the last article we looked at what causes managers to get on to the Drama Triangle and the behaviours that result. One of the main reasons this situation occurs is because managers take on the problem solving process i.e. thinking and responsibility i.e. task of other people. At the time it may seem expedient and easier but in the long run creates a team of people that are afraid to make decisions that lack confidence and become risk averse none of which is good for business. So how do you get off the Drama Triangle One way is to become aware of your own management style but also how to adapt it according to the situation. Hershey and Blanchards model of Situational Leadership which has been around since the 1960s has stood the test of time. It allows you to analyse the needs of the situation youre dealing with and then adopt the most appropriate leadership style. Effective leaders are versatile in being able to move around the model according to the situation. However we ... 2012-3-27 13:18:54 http://www.evolvingperspectives.co.uk/page9.htm#114144 2012-3-8 12:02:01 http://www.evolvingperspectives.co.uk/page9.htm#114141 Managers who have a predominantly directive approach may be heard moaning about their workload and how their staff lack initiative and selfconfidence. As a result they find themselves playing out a piece of theatre which can be explained by using Karpmans Drama Triangle 1968. Karpman uses three roles like in a play or drama namely Persecutor Rescuer and Victim. The following scenario is an example of how the Drama Triangle can play out in the workplace John is the manager whose style is mostly directive he is a more of a teller than a seller. He has a team of 5 people and he frequently tells them what to do and how to complete a task. Moreover when members of his team have a problem with their work they immediately go to John for help because they know he will sort it John likes to be helpful. Typically he will say leave it with me Ill sort it out or he will tell them what they need to do. Over time the staff get used to this way of being managed. They feel fearful ... 2012-3-8 11:16:27 http://www.evolvingperspectives.co.uk/page9.htm#110121 The rumours that no ones job is safe these days has now become a reality and particularly so in certain sectors of the economy. It should not be underestimated the impact on an individual to know that their job is at risk even if it is not going to be for many months or even a year hence. Such is the notice that is often given to employees in the public sector. Just being put at risk of redundancy can be enough to send someone over the edge which is why the way this news is communicated is so very important. Too often I hear about people being given the news not by their manager but in a public forum or at a departmental meeting when they noticed their post had been deleted from the structure. oops never mind. No one had bothered to mention it to them before oh dear. Anyone finding themselves in this position is likely to experience the normal range of human emotional reactions of shock embarrassment anger betrayal disappointment and dented selfesteem. As a consequence... 2012-1-10 21:20:29 http://www.evolvingperspectives.co.uk/page9.htm#103052 Last week I talked about enriching and nurturing your Self and the choice you have of doing something or nothing. Whichever one you choose at least you have made a decision one way or the other or have you Doing nothing is a choice if you accept that there will be consequences. If you do nothing and continue to moan about the consequences or act as though its nothing to do with you then you havent really made a choice. Real choices are made when you ACCEPT the consequences that are the result of the choices YOU make. When you do this you will find that the landscape around you starts to look very different as you start taking control and responsibility for yourself and your life. At work its common for people to feel that there is nothing they can do to improve their situation. Its easy to fall into the trap of telling yourself and others that I have to or I cant or I have no choice creating a sense that it is out of your control and being imposed upon you from someone high... 2011-9-22 10:37:42 http://www.evolvingperspectives.co.uk/page9.htm#101605 How much time do you spend time nurturing your Self By that I dont mean time spent socialising or sitting in front of the tv or going on a bender for the weekend. What I mean is the process of understanding your own sense of self and how you help and also hinder yourself as you go about your daily activities primarily at work. Are you aware of what is great about you and what habitually holds you back. For most of us we carry baggage of different weights shapes and sizes as we travel through life some of us manage to offload the baggage at different points in time for others the load doesnt get any lighter in fact it grows heavier. For most of us one way of lightening the load involves time spent with a good coach or going through a coaching programme. This can be one of the most enriching experiences of ones life and one that serves to lighten our load. Work seems to be the place that most often tests our resolve our resilience sense of... 2011-9-1 20:23:26